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Worst Week at Work

On Monday, I tell my principal I am pregnant (yay!! 1st child!!) and need to leave early Tuesday for an ultrasound.

On Tuesday, my husband and I see our little zygote with its heart beating and it is one of the most transcendent moments of my life.

On Wednesday, the principal calls me into her office, tells me she's replacing me in the Media Center b/c she doesn't think I run a strong media program, and she wanted to replace me back in January 2013 when she took over the school...even though this woman has given me the highest rating possible 2 years running, and I was nominated for Teacher of the Year this year. Instead of working in the library field (of which I have a Master's in and  7 years experience), she's putting me in a classroom next year.

On Thursday, I make some phone calls, attempting to find another position in the county, worrying that maybe I am a horrible Media Specialist.

On Friday, around 1:30, I begin cramping badly. I get to the front office to see the nurse, when I begin to miscarry in the clinic. I am taken to the hospital in an ambulance, where my husband meets me, and we are told the ultrasound shows nothing, I have miscarried completely.

I go home, getting a couple phone calls from coworkers to check on me.

The principal does not show her face while I am in the clinic or the hospital; doesn't call me to check, makes no effort to communicate.

I recover for 3 days at home, and now, am about to go back to that school.

I have to get out of that school. That woman is pure poison.

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theidolhands
May. 6th, 2014 12:42 pm (UTC)
Agreed. I can't help wondering though if some sort of legal action, even a small one or a well-placed grievance is possible, this just smacks of illegal behavior to me and of course it could've put undue stress on the mother. I'm concerned about this sort of behavior going unchecked and leading to the next person suffering.

I'm not telling OP to take it to the point of a lawsuit, but I honest-to-goodness knew a woman who miscarried far further along in pregnancy, due to job stress, that put forth a suit and won.

hazelnut96, please at least speak to a lawyer or two, empower yourself; I just don't trust someone who would do this to you to be trustworthy as you search for employment elsewhere either; it couldn't hurt to know you have some backing or law on your side, which might be the only thing that will keep her from ruining your life or career again. You want to know exactly what you should and should not be saying. My most sincere wishes for better fortune and please keep us updated.

Edited at 2014-05-06 12:54 pm (UTC)
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l_o_lostshadows
May. 6th, 2014 01:19 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
wagrobanite
May. 6th, 2014 02:13 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss.
hazelstitch
May. 6th, 2014 02:31 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss.
bunnyjadwiga
May. 6th, 2014 03:13 pm (UTC)
Offers you sympathy for your loss.

Yes, get away from the principal.
lizzybabe17
May. 6th, 2014 03:28 pm (UTC)
How awful. So, so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine the thoughts running through your mind having to deal with this tragedy and your callous, insensitive principal as well. Please take care of yourself, stress like this can be a killer.I hope you can find another job soon.
epeeblade
May. 6th, 2014 04:12 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss.
clementine123
May. 6th, 2014 05:41 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss.

I wish you all the best in your job search. Hugs.
autumnfire1414
May. 6th, 2014 05:47 pm (UTC)
That is not the worst week at school, that is one of the worst times of your life and I am so, so very sorry this happened to you! Please take care of yourself and allow yourself to grieve. It goes beyond suckage that you have to deal with this insensitive boss on top of your tragedy.

If I take a cold, hard look at just the facts how can the principal say that she doesn't think you run a strong media program when she's given you the highest ratings for the past 2 years? Something is rotten in Denmark! This is a very good reason for you to contest it based on the fact that if there was a problem, it should have been reflected in your ratings and performance review. It wasn't, and now suddenly you're not good enough? No. No, no, no. Contest, protest, and [professionally] raise hell. We're on TeamYOU!
lurkerwisp
May. 6th, 2014 05:57 pm (UTC)
I wish you the best.
beadylady
May. 6th, 2014 06:28 pm (UTC)
I'm so very sorry. Sending hugs.
ordinaryfool
May. 6th, 2014 06:52 pm (UTC)
I am so very, very sorry. I wish you the best of luck in finding a new school.

In the meantime, take more time off if you can. You need to take care of yourself to grieve. Ask coworkers you trust for support. If your principal has done things like this to others, ask them to come with you to speak with your superintendent. Maybe if enough of you come forward, something can be done.
theidolhands
May. 6th, 2014 07:38 pm (UTC)
Good suggestions!
serendipity
May. 6th, 2014 07:00 pm (UTC)
From a complete high to a devastating low, I'm very sorry. Please take care of yourself first and don't let that principal further impact your life, she's definitely toxic.
unstricken
May. 6th, 2014 08:08 pm (UTC)
Oh, a miscarriage is so hard. Don't feel you have to pick up and move on right away (someone else said "take time to grieve" and that is excellent advice).

BTW, your supervisor sounds both toxic and stupid. Any lawyer would salivate over the scenario you described.

Peace.
kadymae
May. 6th, 2014 08:21 pm (UTC)
{{{{{{{hazelnut96}}}}}}

How completely awful for you (and your hubby) on every level.

Rest and be well.
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